Is there a way to be fun and flirty but not hurt afterwards?

One thing that I have found is that I love being pionate, whether it ual or romantic, I just love to know that I am giving a girl a fun time and they feel like they are at the top of the world, just for a moment :). The one thing I have found about this though, is that when you are romantic or y with a person, you send out yourself and then you feel hurt afterwards. Like you just feel empty, eventually, is there some good way to be able to flirt and give a girl a good time without pouring everything you have into them?